Benching

Keeping someone as a backup option, interested enough to stay around but never picked for the actual team.

What it actually means

They text just enough to keep you keen, then go quiet whenever something better comes along. You are a substitute, not a starter.

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What to do about it

Stop sitting on the bench. Ask for real plans, and if they never come, take yourself off the squad.