
Letting Go Of The Past
Posted on May 23rd, 2009 in Dating | No Comments »
For a start you cannot lose something which is not yours. In case of your ex lovers, this is very common. Most of us find it difficult to forget them, move on so that you will be letting go of the past.
Yes it is a loss and you can get depressed. Even going through the break up and after that is a difficult time. It is very traumatic and the pain is very intense as it is a matter of heart.
What happened or who did what is not important anymore. Just forget about it, forgive them and get on with your normal life. You should not have any expectations either from life or future and just take each day as it comes by.
Cry- just cry your heart out and get it out. Tears actually help you feel better by making your heart light. Do not suppress your tears, let the flow.
If you are a religious person or believe in God, go to them. Seek their blessing and take their help. Be positive and welcome change and new things.
Focus on yourself and not the other person. Pity yourself and find happiness within you. Fill up your loneliness with your activities and work. You have it in you and can make it happen.
If there are moments when the pain comes back, be confident and stand up to it. Live the present moment and see the beautiful world around. Keep away from past memories.
Everybody loves to say forgiveness sets you free, up to that moment where you need to be the one that have to forgive. Then it becomes more easily said than done! However, what or who ever you might blame for the loss of your relationship, bitterness will prolong the negative feelings you have. Although you may not forgive the person/s in person at least do it in your heart.

